Men Are Good!: Tom Golden and Paul Elam talk about Borderline Personality Disorder with an emphasis on how men need to be aware of this potential and protect themselves. - As a bit of a disclaimer, I don't present myself as an expert on BPD. The work I have done with borderlines over the years has been usually from those who have experienced a severe loss. In other words, people didn't seek me out to help them with borderline issues but their issues would quickly surface around the more pressing issues of loss. I have likely worked with less than 50 people with borderline features in the past 35 years and likely less than 20 people on a long term basis.