15 Jun 2017

Welcome To The Rebirth Of A Voice For Men

By : A Voice for Men has just wrapped up its third International Conference on Men’s Issues and by all reports it was once again a resounding success. My congratulations and sincere thanks go out to all the speakers, attendees and especially the AVFM staff who worked tirelessly to make it happen.
Aside from their more obvious purpose, each ICMI event is also a time of assessment and reflection. It’s an opportunity to think about our mission, how we are doing with our goals. And to be truthful, it didn’t take an ICMI to draw some very encouraging conclusions along those lines.
“Changing the Cultural Narrative” as a site tagline, and as a goal, has enjoyed profound success. AVFM and a small handful of others (mainly the Honey Badger Brigade) have spawned a legion of social commentators that are doing just that. Feminism has rightly become a dirty word. Feminist ideologues are back on their heels trying to defend their hateful ideology to a world that has grown weary of their corrupt message. The MHRM has been so successful, in fact, that antifeminism has become a cottage industry, with the new purveyors like AVfM taking in huge audiences.
To paraphrase Alison Tieman from The Red Pill Movie Q & A, when the wisdom of “antifeminism as men’s activism” was challenged, she said ‘We don’t even have a choice about that. The antifeminist narrative has popularized and grown beyond our control. We could not stop it if we wanted to.’
None of this is to say that the battle is over. Feminist interests are deeply entrenched in the State, in our establishments of higher education, in the political realm, in the media and throughout the corporatocracy. The change in narrative, however, has become a freight train, and if this follows previous shifts in collective social consciousness, the eventual demise of feminist influence, and its permanent stigmatization as an evil, is inevitable.
If true, that leaves us with the question, where do we go from here?
The answer to that is twofold. First is the AVFM mission. Second is how we go about accomplishing that mission.
Current realities reduce “Changing the Cultural Narrative” to something akin to beating a dead horse. We are better served with more relevant objectives. With that in mind I have drafted a new mission statement addressing the needs of men regarding physical, emotional and financial health, with the latter being focused on protection of assets, from the state, and from interpersonal relationships.
A quick look above shows the new AVFM tagline. “Men’s Health – No Apologies.” It is simple, concise and will be doggedly pursued.
With AVFM’s thousands of internet backlinks in place, assuring a permanent, healthy flow of traffic to the site, we will leverage those assets to further a message addressing men’s overall health, sans the traditional gynocentrism, and sans the unhealthy paradigm of feminist ideologues who see masculinity itself as a problem in need of correction. Indeed, it is our position that blind traditional gynocentrism and feminist dogma (barely discernable from each other) are equally deleterious to the well-being of men and boys.
With some specific exceptions, all future content on the site will reflect the new mission. Men’s mental, physical and financial health will dominate the discourse here with an especially intense focus on mental health. I fully intend that the content will remain as engaging, entertaining and informative as it always has.
More importantly, the content will be designed to be of more utility to men and boys than just bashing ever-so-bash-worthy feminists. Over the past year at my An Ear for Men YouTube channel, I have focused a great deal on men’s interpersonal relationships. I’ve been exploring topics that are an integral part of the lives of everyday men. Relationships, marriage, divorce and children. Adjusting to red pill life, dealing with the red pill rage and red pill grief. Issues of self-respect and self-worth. Matters that reach to the core of men’s identity in modern life, delivered with the same blunt candor for which AVFM has become so well-known.
I have tried to create a message that not only resonates with men, as the material here always has, but that also proves useful. In short, the idea is to more to serve the needs of men, not just invite them to ruffle feathers by challenging the status quo. It’s a lesson from our counterparts in India, who have grown their movement based on being of service to men who need it.
And make no mistake, we are not shedding the antifeminist or antigynocentrist sentiments. You will see them quite plainly in the days ahead, all of it relating to the overall health of men and boys.
To inform you about the second objective, about how we go about accomplishing this, I need to give you some history. In the beginning, eight years ago next month, AVFM was established as a one-man blog. We quickly grew into hundreds of writers over the years and eventually took on a formal business structure in the form of AVfM Education, LLC.
We benefitted a great deal from this. It afforded us some measure of legal protection, gave us much better organization and helped us manage assets to cover the rather weighty financial burden of maintaining top level security and multiple servers.
All this was enormously helpful for the mission of the times, but it also came with a cost. The burdensome processes that come with any business structure bled away some of the spontaneity and creative elements that put us on the edge of things to begin with. At heart, we have always been an activist organization. A reality check informs us that hearts and businesses are not always comfortable under the same roof.
Today, we begin to recover the heart of AVFM.
In the very near future, AVfM Education, LLC will be dissolved. All operations here will be brought under the purview of Red Pill Solutions, LLC, a one-man show (yours truly) with highly informal operations. I will leave the beans to the bean counters, and basically run things at AVFM as I did back in 2009.
AVFM will return to a very select group of contributors, by invitation only, who will have permissions to enter articles into the WordPress editor, and with solid self-editing as a standard. No more passing articles through a series of people to get them on the site. And no more need to burden editors with the tedious (and quite thankless) job of correcting spelling and grammar. Those who can’t or won’t provide well-edited material simply won’t see their writing on these pages. All contributors must be able and willing to come into the WordPress editor at AVFM and completely prepare their articles for posting.
Commenting policies will change, too. The temptation for me is to go to a generally unmoderated style, with of course the ability to remove and ban idiotic trolls on sight: no strike system, no ombudsman. We will do this, mind you, with a revised attitude about our comment section. Our approach will be something akin to laissez faire moderation, allowing men to speak their minds up to the point it becomes apparent their only reason for commenting is to disrupt and antagonize.
This won’t be an easy transition and I welcome feedback from our readers before the new system is implemented.
There is one thing that won’t change. AVFM will never, ever be silenced. We will publish what we believe to be the truth, without mincing words, and without apology and without compromise.
I am sending a link to this post to many of AVFM’s past contributors, hoping that I don’t leave anyone out.
This will be a somewhat challenging phase as we downshift to crest another hill in the journey of A Voice for Men. With your support, we will make it happen. After all, making things happen has been our business for 8 years.

About Paul Elam

Paul Elam is an author, the founder of A Voice for Men and An Ear for Men.where he offers more material on men's mental health issues and personal consulting services.



  1. Does this mean that people who were ejected from the AVfM site in the past will be allowed back into the discussion? In other words I hope this is a real clean slate reset.

    Too many MRAs have been ejected in the manner of creating a type of meninist iteration of a feminist safe space for people's feelz, when many of the ejected are certainly real MRAs who were never aiming to be disruptive just for the sake of disrupting, but, in the minds of many, goodness only knows why, or because feminist style MRA trigger warning safe space...

    Also many react badly to ultimatums, the 'you'll be ejected if you don't behave the way we say you should' sort of threats, especially by the historic 'I came up with the whole idea of the MHRM and you guys should do as your told/as I prescribe Paul Elam', that was certainly coming through in the above so called rebirth where he seems to claim responsibility for everyone else's success.

    Paul needs to take that on board if he's truly trying to deal with men's mental issues.

    Many veteran and active MRA's have viewed their past and seemingly forever rejection by the AVfM website as a badge of honour, indeed there have been many threads/discussions on that matter. ...It's a shame when we all seem to get along famously with the many rejected when we meet in person at ICMIs.

    I only reject one type of comment from my site, advertising bots, I am delighted when people who have opposing views or idiots comment, ...what other reason is there for discussion? Everything else is regurgitation or Southpark GAY, ...like barring people you disagree with or for them touching a legitimate/pertinent raw nerve. People don't need to be governed, in fact government, us delegating our responsibilities to others is the reason we ended up with feminism in the first place.

    George Orwell would say cyberspace is doubletalk/doublethink, this is not virtual reality, this is actual reality and it certainly follows that an oppressive website is the first cousin of any other oppressive regime that can not stand against any intellectual challenge or falls to pieces if everything isn't regimented.

    What happened to 'I'll fight for your right to free speech for you to be able to voice your opposing view? Quite frankly all this safe space ejection nonsense is deeply shameful and the antithesis of Paul's excellent and controversial rebuttal of Jezebel...

    If this is a proper reset, ...then I applaud Paul.

    We live in hope.

    1. Thanks Angelo. I suspect Paul’s motivation in keeping some contributors off AVfM are similar to mine in keeping them off J4MB. A staggering amount of time and energy is expended by MRAs engaging with feminists, and 99.9% of it would be better deployed on productive activities (one of the themes of my talk in Oz). How many feminists have ever retracted their views after being challenged / attacked by MRAs? My guess is none, or very close to it. They know they can waste our time and energy by coming up with crazy stuff, and that makes comments streams very hard work for people wanting enlightenment on issues. Many people enjoy having websites where they can exchange information and views in a non-hostile environment. There must be countless websites where challenging individual feminists in comments streams is the order of the day.

      As you know, J4MB has an additional reason to moderate comments – the fact that people could post comments which could be represented as being endorsed by J4MB. We’re taking enough of a risk campaigning against MGM without having to face false claims of anti-Semitism, for example.

      While I take your points on board, AVfM / J4MB have gained traction to an extent that they have run ICMIs, highly complex affairs entailing a huge amount of work – all of it unpaid. I don’t see the prominent challengers of AVFM (J4MB has few of them) making anything like the same effort.

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    2. Thank you. I think you know that I have great respect for you because of your work, so respectfully; I disagree with some of your comments.

      Being afraid to speak because of the threat of name calling from the likes of the Zionist Jewish lobby is tantamount to the good standing by whilst evil prevails. ...You might as well have said that we shouldn't criticise feminists in case we're called misogynists.

      You are saying that if during the course of our dissection of feminism we discover, on video irrefutable evidence, that Israeli Jews are behind FEMEN desecrating Christian churches and literally shoving crucifixes resplendent with Jesus up their rectal passages outside the Vatican and in Russian orthodox churches we should keep quiet in case we offend some Jews. [I'm atheist]

      You yourself have reported on barbaric metzitzah b'peh, so where precisely do we draw the line of free discussion on the topic and indeed why is there a line in the first place?

      Most importantly I think that to draw a line is to miss the whole point of and the major discovery of the MHRM,

      ...I think you and to a greater extent Paul must have missed the memo that the MHRM is based on the fact that when we discover a line in the sand it is invariably part of the problem and a crucial thing to understand/discuss re. our current state of affairs?

      The whole men's rights subject has been taboo, so we should understand better than anyone else that only fools draw lines/limit the discussion, that only fools capitulate to name calling.


      That aside, you and Paul did not invent the men's movement, nor did I frankly, but I'm quite sure that others were working hard, thinking, planning, marching and making big media headlines long before I ever heard of either of you, ...I know because I was there, marching in the streets of London and I saw the bemused faces of the people of 2002 when we were only 300 and society seemed clueless, the difference when they came down from their offices in their thousands 3 years later to cheer us on. I know because I tried to work with conservatives for change over a decade ago, again before I ever heard of you. I know because I was liaising with members of the fledgling US and later Indian Men's rights movements, again, long before I had heard of either of you.

      I applaud you for carrying the torch forward, but I suggest we focus on the issues facing men and boys and the women who love us and that it's bad form to claim to be the god of the MHRM. ...You should wait for someone else to write that piece. I am sure you both deserve such an accolade.

      FYI you were ahead of Paul on MGM and you deal with so-called 'anti-Semitism' which is in fact just propaganda 'for shut up, no one is allowed to discuss the Jews' in a far more effective and proper manner whereby it is difficult not to see that you are a decent person with good and proper intentions, bravo.

      I will continue to thrust long hard prickly cacti up the rectal passage of feminism, Zionism, Judaism or any other 'ism' that adversely effect the equal rights of men and boys. It saddens me if that upsets you.

      Please come on board with me in having the courage of your convictions unwaveringly when it comes to the subject of the MHRM, all the but-hurt be damned, because if they are not part of the solution, you can bet they are part of the problem.