By Travis Scott: For clarifications sake, it cannot be stressed enough this paper was not written for the promotion of misogyny. Many will have that reaction if only because of the title of this essay, and not read what I wrote. Regardless, it needs to be said that I do not hate women, and I am not aligned with philosophies considered ‘misogynistic.’ Neither am I making claims as to the ‘superiority’ or ‘inferiority’ of the sexes. For most of my life, I had defined myself as a feminist. I do not anymore because the position is no longer tenable. In contrast, I will be making the claim that I am sexist and that many people openly display sexist attitudes about others despite supposed ties to “non-sexist” ideologies.
I will be saying very sexist things in this essay. If you are the type with triggers and such, you have been warned. I will be candid, and I will make no apologies for what I write. By being sexist, I mean to say that I make judgments and interact with people differently based on their sex. This is not the same as reserving deep-seated hatred for the opposite sex. There is a difference between the two, and I believe they have been conflated by specific political groups to achieve certain ends. The sexes are certainly complimentary in nature, but they are not equivalent or the same. With this essay I am going to make plain what I believe are irreconcilable social norms and behaviors that go with the culture of “gender-equality” these groups have delivered us.
As a bonus for those who feel that my views might be skewed or partial by a “chauvinist male perspective”: Aside from things like Government statistics and dictionary entries, nearly all of my references will be from feminists or women.
As a man, I grew up a feminist and spent a large part of my life identifying as a feminist. I was taught about gender equality before I was taught proper comprehension skills. I was taught that, as a man, I should reserve myself and my masculinity so not to offend women or get in their way. Many men were taught the same as boys. They were wrongly taught that girls were either as good as men or better than them, at everything. This was mostly done by all-women school teachers and various other figureheads in society (AKA, “The Patriarchy”).
I can testify to this with my experience and the experience of others: that if you were a boy raised in the late 20th/early 21st century, it was very likely that you were taught not to be a man before you are taught to be a man.
A sociology class I took, along with other events in my life, changed all of this. Sociology is known in academia for being more liberal than any other field. My teacher was a feminist. The textbook was written by a feminist. Many times when gender came up as an issue, my instructor sent a feminist message. Slight disagreements, coming from either men or women, were shut down on the spot.
Later in class, we got to the part of our textbook that discussed gender issues in society. More specifically regarding the women’s right movement of the 20th century:
This was the point where I realized that I had been trolled. Trolled both by women and feminist men who had said they believed in their heart of hearts that men and women were truly “equal in every way,” and that one could do everything the other could do. It was the first time I can remember hearing such a blatant admission from two different feminists that “gender disparity” was due to biology meeting hard labor, when ‘patriarchy’ was the sole contributor every time before.
At a certain level of my mind, I had always known this to be a fact, but I was programmed to walk around the truth and ignore it. Walking around the truth is no longer excusable. This is ultimately why I have decided to become sexist, or rather admit that I am sexist. Because everyone is sexist. Even people who say they aren’t sexist are sexist.[2]
Honesty is the heart of the matter here, and you have to ask yourself: Would you want to be friends with people who lie? Although it is a politically dangerous conclusion to come to, it is scientific none-the-less: Men and women are not the same. We should not have to treat one another the same. In real time, we don’t actually treat one another the same. The gender-equality modern society propagates, is mostly artificial and pretend. No one actually thinks equality is real. Not the feminists, their progeny or ancestors, not even the choir they preach too. Equality is a ghost-word feminist use for political subversion and other incendiary purposes.[3] For example; the idea that all women, or even most women, wanted complete “equality” or out of gender-roles,[4][5][6] or that women were actively repressed are feminist constructed myth that they rewrote into history after they gained enough power.[7][8]
People’s reactions towards others, or how people behave, is biologically embedded into their bodies[9] and minds[10][11]. You are either the kind of person that acknowledges this out in the open, or you will try to hide temporarily your biological reactions to the opposite sex through virtue signaling commentary about ‘fair play’ and ‘equality’ (or whatever you think will get people to like you). All other things aside, it is safe to say that regardless of your disposition that sexism is inescapable. Because sexism is inescapable, creating a society that tries to circumvent sexism through ‘new and improved’ social norms will result in confusion, turmoil, and decline.
At best, feminism is a pseudo-philosophy. There is nothing visceral or real about it. If you were to take away the machines, and the computers, there is no ‘gender-equality’. If you take away the Constitution, the household appliances, or birth control, there would be no feminist movement. If you take away all these man-made inventions, women, of their own attempts, could never stand on “even footing” with a man. After long thought, I have come to the conclusion that the idea that they are supposed to be is a fiction and a lie. Now I rather believe in the adage that women were made to do everything a man can’t do, not try to copy them.
Sexist Double-Binds
As a man, you are caught in a double-bind. You are taught that women are your equal, but they are also not. This is evident where in certain circumstances there are actions you would take with a man, which you must not –under any circumstance– take towards women. This is done to ‘keep the balance’, or to maintain the illusion of equality between the sexes. Breaking this illusion, and denying subordination to it, is an act of political sedition worthy of verbal abuse, ostracism, and possible jail time.
These sexist double-binds are a product of sexism. In a world where gender equality was an objective fact, they wouldn’t exist. But the sexes are different, so society stresses that men refrain from doing these things to women. These rules are not active when men interact with other men, or women with women.
These restrictions on your manhood range everywhere from; (1) refraining from using physical force for any reason, and of any kind; (2) being really assertive; (3) hurting a woman’s feelings; (4) or merely disagreeing with a woman.
Despite the fact that men may behave this way towards one another on a regular basis with no one thinking twice, doing any of the above to females, for any reason at all, may be considered ‘misogynist’, or a criminal act of sexism. Punishments are administered by law (or in the workplace, or in social/family settings) in greater exaggeration on men if they ever actually treat women like actual men. Why? Because men are different than women, and men who don’t respect those differences are misogynists who need to be punished. Do you understand?
Men who restrain themselves from being too manly around a woman because women “can’t handle it” may be about as sexist as it gets. But it’s sexism that feminists benefit from, so they keep it around. Heaven forbid that curtain ever gets pulled down.
This produces the Orwellian doublethink[13] that we were warned about in the book 1984. Men’s minds reel when they recognize that our society assigns two contradictory statements the same level of truth. They say: “Men and women are equal,” along with “Men and women are not the same.” The double-binds that come out of this are nonsense and cause dissonance at several levels of our social life, culture, and politics; yet we let them perpetuate themselves, ignoring the contradictions to uphold a level of “civility” that other societies never had: “the equality of genders.”
When a woman (feminists in particular) is have had a conversation or heaven forbid an argument with a man, it is never a conversation between equals, because she does not view it as a level battlefield. Women have been taught their whole lives that men are domineering patriarchs who think little of women and that women have always been victims of male oppression. At the slightest suspicion, minute disagreement, or tone of voice, they will jump to the conclusion that they are being victimized at the hands of some invisible patriarchal superstructure, and you embody it. This dramatic overlay doesn’t only come in over politics or women’s issues; it could be over the most useless trivia or honestly nothing at all. Men who are subject to these tirades may have no inkling of malice for women in their hearts (at least before they were being yelled at for no reason). But this doesn’t matter, because it is less about what you actually think, and more about how the woman perceives you at the moment.
Many will say that assuming that women are emotional creatures is unfair to women and that such prejudices are a part of the problem. This is not true. Save the more recent years, I spent my whole life as a feminist and have waited, look for, and even assumed that women have the same thought process that men have. This was a mistake because it’s just not an actual thing. This is not “bad,” women are just different than men.
Women who appear to have developed rational faculties are still subject to all the hormones and mood swings that have been assigned to their biological sex. Like all other women, they are less inclined to out their sex in front of males, save when they are around men who they trust and are comfortable with. They are also hyper-aware of the emotional games women play with one another, and with men; they know very well that these same wiles and maneuvers are available to them if they need them. Women who say they think on the same ground as men do are doing a disservice to both men and women. They are intentionally confusing the nature of the two sexes for the sake of gaining some selfish foothold in a social situation or political argument. These women will inevitably contradict themselves by saying “treat us fairly, because we are just like you men,” and then later make a u-turn and claim “men shouldn’t speak about women’s issues because men don’t understand what it’s like to be a woman.” This is not a joke; it’s legitimate woman-logic. Women know it exists, and will even tell you it exists. But as long as they’ve kept men trained to ignore it at the right time for politeness sake, men will always be duped into being chumps.
Conveniently enough, women only requested to be seen as our equals at the peak of our modern society, when resources and comfort were at their highest, and adversity within the immediate environment was at its lowest. They did it at a time when women would not have to prove that they were like men the way men always have had to prove they were manly. Filing paperwork is how they proved they were “like men.” If they really wanted to prove they were men, they would have done what men have always done to prove who is the better man: Fighting in physical altercations.
If the feminist movement of the sixties actually thought they were males, all of them would have fought really hard for a spot in combat in the Vietnam war. But they didn’t protest to be drafted just like the men were. They were too busy burning bras, throwing feces at return draftees, and doing drugs in fields of flowers; along with a list of other things that men don’t do when they desire to receive honor and rank in society.
They were protesting for equality in a space of safety and security, in the very American bubble men built for them. With this, they built the myth of gender equality. A myth that only exists in first world countries that are extremely well off in technology and comfort.
A myth that only exists when Men stop acting like Real Men.
Male Disparities
Men were told their whole lives that they were to work tirelessly to better alleviate discomfort and misfortune for their wives and children. Men are engineered to recognize the plight of women and rectify it. Women spoke out about their issues, and men sought to solve them. Maybe it was about the weather, and the roof man built over their heads. The unbearable heat that brought the implementation of the AC unit in the home; their labors with clothes, which was followed by the laundry machine; or protecting them from others that would do them harm, whether within their own community or from other countries.
Men have always been ar the beck and call of women. Men fought very hard to create a world where their families could live in comfort and plenty. They created family structure and civilization for the benefit of all humanity. Now that men have created so much for women, organizations of women have sought to ‘opt out’ of the system men have created altogether, and ultimately eject men from the playing field.[14] This move has certainly not been without serious consequences.[15]
Now, it is common for women to hold fast to politics that conflict with now phantom standards of male expectations (while also often having the audacity to say that they wish they still existed). They also extort men with sex. Emotional manipulation and social engineering are also a serious factor men have to worry about with the modern female breed who is “free to do anything she pleases,” feminist mentality.
Modern Men have been sold out by their leaders and have become despondent and confused as to the personal roles they are supposed to fulfill in this world. Their desires and good intentions are always shadowed by the thousands of different pro-feminist, anti-male messages that are relayed to them at every level of society. After all this, women now ask: “Where have all the real men gone?” The answer is that they banned them, kicked them out of the house, and said that they are not wanted.
In reality, feminism is not a gender equality movement. Otherwise, why can’t both men and women benefit from equality programs? And why have feminists been completely silent over the issues men face? Some feminists will claim that there is room for discussion about male issues within feminism, but this is a red herring. Out of all the investment I have put into feminism and rolling through feminists channels and books, it’s plain to see that male issues are never discussed through self-proclaimed feminist portals. Ever. Feminists don’t care about men’s issues because they are under the mistaken assumption that men have it better than women in every category, and that the men are the cause of all their problems. The truth looks a lot different.[16][17]
There will never be a day when women, as a whole, will not be playing the victim to gain some sympathetic advantage in society. Feminists use female-sympathy to twist politics to their favor. If it ends up that feminists have no enemy; they will make them up[18]. People will often accept their assertions without question because of societal prejudice that states women are the weaker, more unfortunate sex. They will jump to remedy these false problems because they want to feel good about rescuing women from their condition. The fact is that women enjoy all sorts of positives in our society that, as an entity, they are completely ungrateful for. They get hired in stem fields 2 to 1 in comparison to men[19]. They make more money than men in some fields.[20][21] They are less likely to be diagnosed with learning disabilities then boys are in their youth.[22]
Women are not subject to the high suicide rates of males.[23] Men are more likely to develop substance abuse disorders than women.[24] Women are drastically less likely to suffer work-related injuries and fatalities than men.[25] They are imprisoned less[26] and less likely to be homeless than men.[27] They face shorter sentences for the same crime than men.[28] Men also get raped more,[29] assaulted more,[30] and murdered more often than women.[31][32]
There are many other issues men face disproportionately in comparison to women, but they’re not worthy of discussion to the public eye. These are all gender disparities that you can be sure you would hear about if they were on the shoulders of females. But because the victims are male, and men are the disposable units of society, all of the above facts are irrelevant. Feminist organizations don’t believe in equality, nor do they bother with the plight of men. In reality, they’re women’s organizations pretending to seek gender equality, when really they are only looking after gender benefits.
Feminists are crafty orators. They will continue to speak and be heard until circumstances within their immediate environment cause them to abandon their false principles. Regardless of how truthful or sincere they appear in their speeches, real honest-to-God equality is both nonviable and nonsensical for a functional society. It is also not reputable to science.[33] Feminism will ultimately spread moral decay because it is based on a lie.
The Nature of The Game
I don’t suppose that every time a girl cries that they are fake tears, but I certainly have experienced enough to be suspicious about whether or not I am being played for a fool when they turn on the waterworks. The same applies to women who might use beauty, flirtation, or skin to gain an advantage over others in social circles, or even at the workplace. Experience along with warnings from both men and women have taught me to be wary of this. If you are a man, being aware of these type of maneuvers women play can save you from both emotional scars and a lot of trouble.
Being feminine is a subtle feature women have that will aid them whenever they need to escape from actual danger, or to escape the consequences of their own actions. Men do not receive any benefit for crying or appearing weak and dainty. Not in the courtroom, not from their families, and certainly not from a crowd of strangers. The fact of the matter is that they will be looked on as less of a man if they do.
With men, everything they do is subject to the fact that another man or a group of men may start a fight with them over what they stand for. As I said before, men are expendable. This is why they have always fought all the wars and done all the dangerous jobs. Neither men nor women expect women to endure situations of physical/emotional duress, particularly at the hands of the forces of nature, or from other males. In a situation of crisis or imminent danger, it is biologically and sociologically implicit to all the members of our society that men take the reigns and put their lives on the line to preserve the well-being of the women. This is for the same reason men are taught to refrain from physically harming women: they are stronger and more physically capable than women.
Flowery indecision is fundamental and inherent to a woman’s character. Women will acknowledge the nature of their psyche or biology when personal temperament deems appropriate, or when certain exertions upon them force them to recognize what they are. They will otherwise shroud themselves with ambiguity, be thrown to and fro, speak regarding relativity, and (when fashion or culture allows) they may even misdirect others by hinting that they view themselves, to some degree, as androgynous and epicene.
Women with feminist leanings may get irate when you openly point out their feminine characteristics in front of them, regardless of whether or not it was a compliment. They certainly get more irate than men do when women tell them that they are “mansplaining,”[35] or some other hypocritically sexist feminist garbage. However, when it’s to their advantage women participate in the same stereotypes that have caricatured womenfolk since the beginning of time. This includes roles that personify the victimhood of women, the physical and emotional weakness of women, and activating age old concepts of chivalry that say a man should step in the way of her accusers and save them from their predicaments. They do this to sidestep environmental dangers; and also so they can avoid the psychological, sociological, and physical repercussions society distributes to others for irreverent or immoral behavior. These are both dangers and repercussions men receive without restraint.
Women across the board invoke phrases that catch the ear of men. They will infer that women should be rescued from danger and that men should stand in to soften their suffering. Suffering they should not endure simply because they are women. They may even imply that they are victims of circumstance, even if they have caused their own trouble.
Men get confused when women claim they want more responsibility, but regularly weasel and whine their way out of situations because they are uncomfortable. By how much this happens, it may very well be a truth that women need to be ‘saved from their circumstance,’ or that men must stand in opposition to their fickle, irrational behavior. Because that is just who they are.
However, the annoying part comes with newer generations of women who play all the above games after so assuredly claiming that they are “equal” to men. That we are supposed to be “on the same playing field.” Or even after saying that they “don’t need a man.” Any woman making the claim that the above feminine wiles don’t exist or that there is no advantage to them is both a liar and a false witness.
Something must give because it will not go both ways. You will either see women want to act more womanly or see them cease to respect themselves. Or if you believe that males are always the actors and aggressors, it is the men who will force women to behave either way. The choice is yours.
Instead of women beating men at their own game, they plead for help from us and the structures we invented. They do this while simultaneously asserting that they are as good as or better than us at everything. They want the same socio-economic and political mobility that men have, without having made an equal sacrifice regarding rough labor and mandatory warfare (among many other things) that men have always made throughout time.
Both men and women are very aware of these tactics women play, and men enable this behavior. It is already known that men and women are not the same, but certain ‘danger meters’ have been programmed to go off in our head when anyone explicitly acknowledges simple facts in the open. Pretending to believe in contradictions and falsehoods can only make people’s lives worse for them. I am arguing that on the basis of biology, and how quick women are to throw equality out the window for sheer convenience, that we stop pretending that the sexes are equivalent in nature, because they are not.
Being ‘Sexist’ in a Feminist World
All the infrastructure, technological developments, progress in politics or the arts, have been the result of the toil of men over the course of several thousand years. We are the men that got the job done, fought the wars to protect our families, designed and built all the wonders of the world, got scurvy circumnavigating the globe, got black lung in the coal mines, and a whole host of atrocities that we toughed through to get where we are today. We are descended from men who survived the hell fire of the world, and the brothers of those who died to protect our families and our lifestyles.
This is not to say that women have not had it hard or played an important role in society- but where men could, they toiled, suffered and died so their women and children would not have to endure similar circumstances. I’m sure that all these important men had mothers who raised them right or sisters and wives that had nurturing, communal roles in society to help keep things together. Unfortunately, feminism has fought to make motherhood and other such roles undesirable, and told women that instead they should be focused on careers that make them ‘more like men.’ This is not a good trend for women to follow[37], and may very well result in the decay of the family and the destruction of our society.
Just because we have it easy now (and we have it really easy) does not mean that we should not raise the bar or just let go of our masculinity. Rest assured; another time will come when being a man will be more important than doing all the nice, leisurely things this feminized society offers for nothing at all. It is better for you, and will be more fulfilling to your manhood to prepare for that time, rather than wasting your life away in a world of plastic, digital illusions. As men, we should consider whether or not the comforts we have, or the habits we partake of, are excessive, needless, or degrading to our characters. If they are, we need to get rid of them and find better uses for our time. Misdirected energy is probably the number one deterrent to manliness in this society.
Saying you are sexist out loud means admitting to yourself that the game is and will always be rigged by biology and societal prejudice. It means that your no longer willing to participate in double binds and treat people as some exception to the rule because of their gender. This is “not fair”, but life is not fair. The nameless hordes of men who gave their lives and died for our freedoms only to remembered as “oppressive, privileged patriarchs” knew this better than anyone. You don’t have to like sexism. You don’t have to like gendered double-standards. You don’t have to like the time you live in. You don’t have to like any of that. But you do have to be aware of their reality. Being willfully ignorant will grant you a fools reward. If you want to be a benefit to both your friends and family, and best contribute to society, you will align yourself with truth and facts of reality and do your best to live the most correct way you can, even in the face of all the opposition that is out there- this is truly what it means to be a man.
[2] “Women Are Sexist Too,” Anne-Marie Slaughter, Time Magazine, September 2015:
“…I’m not talking about differences here. I’m talking about presumed superiority: the ways in which a majority of American women actually think we are better than men in the entire domestic realm, from kids to kitchens. About the things we don’t actually want to give up. And about the roles many of us want men to play and the roles we are willing to let them play.
Consider the following scenario. You walk into your office on your first day of work and your boss, a man, says, “I have evolved biologically to do this job better than you can, but I’m going to let you try. To be sure it’s done right, however, I will leave you detailed instructions for every individual task. And when I travel, I will call in every couple of hours to make sure you are following those instructions to the letter.”
Most women would complain immediately to human resources and perhaps start considering a lawsuit. But when I describe this hypothetical scene to audiences of women, the laughter begins to ripple along the rows by the time I get to “I will leave you detailed instructions.” This is precisely the way the majority of us treat our husbands or male partners when we leave them in charge of the children. When I point out our own double standards in this regard, double standards we have long ago fiercely rejected in the workplace, I see a number of women looking slightly shamefaced. But inevitably at least one woman in the audience will raise her hand and say what many others are thinking: “But they really don’t know how to do it.”
[3] “’Equal rights’ for women: wrong then, wrong now,” Phyllis Schlafly, LA Times, April 8th, 2007
[4] “Women at Work: Values”, PBS; “In 1936, a Gallup poll asked a national sample, “Should a married woman earn money if she has a husband capable of supporting her?” By overwhelming majorities, both men and women said she should not.”
[5] “Not Guilty: The Case in Defense of Men,” David Thomas, August 1993, pg 85;
“The desire to free oneself from work was common to all classes and both sexes. Dr Joanna Bourke of Birkbeck College, London, has studied the diaries of 5,000 women who lived between 1860 and 1930. During that period, the proportion of women in paid employment dropped from 75 per cent to 10 per cent. This was regarded as a huge step forward for womankind, an opinion shared by the women whose writings Dr Bourke researched. Freed from mills and factories, they created a new power base for themselves at home. This was, claims Dr Bourke, “a deliberate choice. . . and a choice that gave great pleasure.” (emphasis mine)
[6] Queen Victoria, the most powerful women of her time, was quoted in 1870 saying: “We women are not made for governing, and if we are good women, we must dislike these masculine occupations. There are times which force one to take interest in them, and I do, of course intensely… I am most anxious to enlist everyone who can speak or write to join in checking this mad, wicked folly of ‘Women’s Rights’, with all its attendant horrors, on which her poor feeble sex is bent, forgetting every sense of womanly feelings and propriety. Feminists ought to get a good whipping. Were woman to ‘unsex’ themselves by claiming equality with men, they would become the most hateful, heathen and disgusting of beings, and would surely perish without male protection.”
[7] “What’s Wrong with ‘Equal Rights’ for Women?” Phyllis Schlafly, 1972
[8] “The Grand Fraud part II,” Thomas Sowell, Town Hall, April 2n2, 2003;
“…Women had achieved a higher representation in higher education and in many professions in earlier decades of the twentieth century than they had when the feminist movement became prominent in the 1960s…The percentage of master’s degrees and doctoral degrees that went to women was never as great during any year of the 1950s or 1960s as that percentage was back in 1930. The percentage of women who were listed in “Who’s Who in America” was twice as high in 1902 as in 1958. Women were also better represented in higher education and in a number of professions in the 1920s or 1930s than they were in the 1950s or 1960s, though none of this fits the fashionable fairy tales of the feminists. Women received 34 percent of the bachelor’s degrees in 1920 but only 24 percent in 1950. In mathematics, women’s share of doctorates declined from 15 percent to 5 percent over a span of decades, and in economics from 10 percent to 2 percent… How do the feminists explain away this earlier history of women’s progress? They don’t. They ignore it. By the simple expedient of tracing women’s progress only since the 1960s, the fraud is protected from contact with inconvenient facts.” (emphasis mine)
[9] “The Biology of Attraction,” Helen E. Fisher, Psychology Today, April 1993 (updated June 2016)
[10] “How Male and Female Brains Differ,” Webmd.
[11] Carol Giligan, Goucher College, 1988. From the abstract: “Gilligan’s work… [introduces] a feminist perspective of moral development… Men tend to organize social relationships in a hierarchical order and subscribe to a morality of rights. Females value interpersonal connectedness, care, sensitivity, and responsibility to people.”
[12] In 2015 Nobel prize winning scientist Tim Hunt made the comment to an audience in South Korea: “Let me tell you about my trouble with girls. Three things happen when they are in the lab: you fall in love with them, they fall in love with you, and when you criticize them they cry.” On June 10, 2015, Dr. Emily Grossman appeared on the British based Sky News to give commentary on the matter. Rather than criticize Tim Hunt for inferring that women can’t handle male criticism, she insisted that his comments were “irresponsible… women learn in a very different way [than men]… Women learn in a way that is supportive, thats nurturing… I see the girls that I teach get put into mixed sex groups and get put off because they are in a competitive environment, they’re too frightened…” Throughout the interview, she continued to infer that men should refrain from being competitive or being critical in order to help “nurture” girls along in their progress.
[13] According to Dictionary.com. Doublethink is “the acceptance of two contradictory ideas or beliefs at the same time.” In addition, the wikipedia entry on Doublethink, as of June, 14, 09:50 EST reads; “George Orwell created the word double think in his dystopian novel Nineteen Eighty-Four;… the novel explicitly shows people learning Doublethink… due to peer pressure and a desire to “fit in”, or gain status with the Party – to be seen as a loyal Party Member. In the novel, for someone to even recognize – let alone mention – any contradiction within the context of the Party line was akin to blasphemy, and could subject that someone to possible disciplinary action and to the instant social disapproval of fellow Party Members.”
[14] “The End of Men,” Hanna Rosin, The Atlantic, July 2010
[15] “No Man’s Land,” Jack Donovan, November 11th, 2011
[16] “The Female Paradox: Women Prefer to Work With Men,” Terina Allen, CEO ARVi’s Institute, Jan 10th, 2015
[17] “Sisterhood? Women cooperate less with their own sex than men,” Sarah Knapton, The Telegraph, March 4th, 2014
[18] “The Top Five Feminist Myths of All Time, ” Christina Hoff Sommers ,AEI, september 8th, 2014.
Through her series “The Factual Feminist,” sommers released a video commentary going over and debunking several of the myths and folklore surrounding the over exaggerated plight of women, noting that feminists use to these myths to propagate their own agenda. The following myths that were debunked were:
[20] “There are 22 US Cities Where Women Actually Earn More Than Men,” Emily Cohn, Huffington Post, April 7th, 2015
[21] “No, Women Don’t Make Less Money Than Men,” Christina Hoff Sommers, The Daily Beast, February 1st, 2014
[22] “What Challenges Are Boys Facing, And What Opportunities Exist to Address those Challenges?,” U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, ASPE, May 8th, 2008
[23] Firstfamilyaid.org; “More men than woman die by suicide. The gender ration is 4:1. 73% of all deaths are white males. 80% of all firearm suicide deaths are white males. ” The Gender ratio for adolescent suicide , age 10-14, is 3:1 (males:females). The gender ratio for teen suicides, aged 15-19, is 5:1 (males:females).
[24] “In Mental Illness Men More Likely To Develop Substance Abuse, Antisocial Problems; Women More LIkely To Develop Anxiety, Depression,” Medical News Today, August 22nd, 2011.
[25] According to 2013 Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS), men make up for 93% (4,265) of fatal work related injuries, and Women 7%(319).
[26] “Federal Bureau of Prisons Statistics on Inmate Gender”; 93.3% male, 6.7% female (as of April 23rd, 2016)
[27] “The other gender divide: where men are loosing out” Mona Chalabi, The Gaurdian, May 7th, 2013; “[T]he housing charity Crisis found that 84% of the hidden homeless were male. And the latest CHAIN figures suggest that 9 out of 10 people sleeping rough are male. According to Mankind Initiative in UK refugees or safe houses, there are 33 spaces dedicated to male victims of domestic violence (of which 18 are for gay males only), compared to around 4,000 spaces for females.”
[28] “Estimating Gender Disparities in Federal Criminal Cases” Sonja B. Starr, University of Michigan Law School, August 29, 2012.
[29] “More men are raped in the US than women, figures on prison assaults reveal,” Daily Mail, October 8th 2013.
[30] “Criminal Victimization, 2013” U.S. Department of Justice, September 2014
[31] “Homicide Statistics 2013”, United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime (UNDOC)
[32] “Homicide Trends in the United States, 1980-2008”, November 2011, Table 1; 76.8% victims male, 23.2% female.
[33] Aside from the explicit biological, psychological, and neurological differences between men and women, there are also diseases that are “sexist”, and that are significantly more likely to afflict you based on whether or not you are a male or a female.
[34] “The Autobiography of Malcolm X,” as told by Alex Haley, First Ballantine Books Trade Edition: February 1992, pg 448 (emphasis mine)
[35] As defined by dictionary.com: “(of a man) to comment on or explain something to a woman in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate or oversimplified manner: He mansplained to her about female friendships.”
[36] Emphasis mine.
[37] “Is There a Happiness Gender Gap?”Jill Suttie, Berkley.edu, December 1st 2009;
“women’s happiness levels have been dropping steadily over the last few decades, to the point that women now report lower happiness levels than men, a role reversal from the 1970s. Given social improvements in women’s lives over the intervening decades—increased work opportunities, higher salaries, and more reproductive choice, to name a few- these results have surprised for than a few commentators… several large-scale surveys that have tracked the general well-being of Americans and Europeans from as far back as 1972. They found that women’s happiness levels had dropped over time in each survey.”
I will be saying very sexist things in this essay. If you are the type with triggers and such, you have been warned. I will be candid, and I will make no apologies for what I write. By being sexist, I mean to say that I make judgments and interact with people differently based on their sex. This is not the same as reserving deep-seated hatred for the opposite sex. There is a difference between the two, and I believe they have been conflated by specific political groups to achieve certain ends. The sexes are certainly complimentary in nature, but they are not equivalent or the same. With this essay I am going to make plain what I believe are irreconcilable social norms and behaviors that go with the culture of “gender-equality” these groups have delivered us.As a bonus for those who feel that my views might be skewed or partial by a “chauvinist male perspective”: Aside from things like Government statistics and dictionary entries, nearly all of my references will be from feminists or women.
Sexism as RealityTravis Scott
As a man, I grew up a feminist and spent a large part of my life identifying as a feminist. I was taught about gender equality before I was taught proper comprehension skills. I was taught that, as a man, I should reserve myself and my masculinity so not to offend women or get in their way. Many men were taught the same as boys. They were wrongly taught that girls were either as good as men or better than them, at everything. This was mostly done by all-women school teachers and various other figureheads in society (AKA, “The Patriarchy”).
I can testify to this with my experience and the experience of others: that if you were a boy raised in the late 20th/early 21st century, it was very likely that you were taught not to be a man before you are taught to be a man.
A sociology class I took, along with other events in my life, changed all of this. Sociology is known in academia for being more liberal than any other field. My teacher was a feminist. The textbook was written by a feminist. Many times when gender came up as an issue, my instructor sent a feminist message. Slight disagreements, coming from either men or women, were shut down on the spot.
Later in class, we got to the part of our textbook that discussed gender issues in society. More specifically regarding the women’s right movement of the 20th century:
Many factors have contributed to this transformation. Perhaps most important, industrialization and recent advances in computer technology have shifted the nature of work from physically demanding tasks that favor male strength to jobs that require thought and imagination. This change puts women and men on an even footing. Also, because birth control technology has given us greater control over reproduction, women’s lives are less constrained by unwanted pregnancies.[1]I watched my teacher read this out loud and agree with it. She then moved on without a hitch as if this was not a big deal.
This was the point where I realized that I had been trolled. Trolled both by women and feminist men who had said they believed in their heart of hearts that men and women were truly “equal in every way,” and that one could do everything the other could do. It was the first time I can remember hearing such a blatant admission from two different feminists that “gender disparity” was due to biology meeting hard labor, when ‘patriarchy’ was the sole contributor every time before.
At a certain level of my mind, I had always known this to be a fact, but I was programmed to walk around the truth and ignore it. Walking around the truth is no longer excusable. This is ultimately why I have decided to become sexist, or rather admit that I am sexist. Because everyone is sexist. Even people who say they aren’t sexist are sexist.[2]
Honesty is the heart of the matter here, and you have to ask yourself: Would you want to be friends with people who lie? Although it is a politically dangerous conclusion to come to, it is scientific none-the-less: Men and women are not the same. We should not have to treat one another the same. In real time, we don’t actually treat one another the same. The gender-equality modern society propagates, is mostly artificial and pretend. No one actually thinks equality is real. Not the feminists, their progeny or ancestors, not even the choir they preach too. Equality is a ghost-word feminist use for political subversion and other incendiary purposes.[3] For example; the idea that all women, or even most women, wanted complete “equality” or out of gender-roles,[4][5][6] or that women were actively repressed are feminist constructed myth that they rewrote into history after they gained enough power.[7][8]
People’s reactions towards others, or how people behave, is biologically embedded into their bodies[9] and minds[10][11]. You are either the kind of person that acknowledges this out in the open, or you will try to hide temporarily your biological reactions to the opposite sex through virtue signaling commentary about ‘fair play’ and ‘equality’ (or whatever you think will get people to like you). All other things aside, it is safe to say that regardless of your disposition that sexism is inescapable. Because sexism is inescapable, creating a society that tries to circumvent sexism through ‘new and improved’ social norms will result in confusion, turmoil, and decline.
At best, feminism is a pseudo-philosophy. There is nothing visceral or real about it. If you were to take away the machines, and the computers, there is no ‘gender-equality’. If you take away the Constitution, the household appliances, or birth control, there would be no feminist movement. If you take away all these man-made inventions, women, of their own attempts, could never stand on “even footing” with a man. After long thought, I have come to the conclusion that the idea that they are supposed to be is a fiction and a lie. Now I rather believe in the adage that women were made to do everything a man can’t do, not try to copy them.
Sexist Double-Binds
Women didn’t go to Vietnam and blow things up. They are not Rambo…Ninety-five percent of women’s experiences are about being a victim. Or about being an underdog, or having to survive.- Jodie Foster, New York Times MagazineMost men that have ever lived have not lived like lavish kings, but women pedestalize male power archetypes, and look at the men who are kings and say, “I want the ability to be as privileged as this king (or senator, or CEO), and anything less than this is unacceptable.” Any barriers to this end will automatically be framed as ‘chauvinist’ to the female mind. Even if they are the same barriers men have to go through or those other men have stepped up to and been denied. They entered male spaces and got offended at getting “pushed” out or around by other men, claiming that such treatment was sexist. When the simple truth is that is what men do to each other. Rather than accept this as part of the “terms and conditions” of real equality, where women would be exposed to 100% of the male experience, they instead seek to make male spaces more about themselves and soften the standards.[12]
If they are truly suited to compete with men, they should be able to do so without special rules, privileges, and protections. Men should not have to curb their behavior so that women can achieve… To ask men to radically alter their behavior… [is] not equality any more than asking a boxer to fight with one hand tied behind his back a “fair fight.” And this is exactly what feminists ask of men. ‘Hobble yourselves so that we can crawl on your backs.’ Men need to reject this. – Jack Donovan, “Mother may I” Masculinity
As a man, you are caught in a double-bind. You are taught that women are your equal, but they are also not. This is evident where in certain circumstances there are actions you would take with a man, which you must not –under any circumstance– take towards women. This is done to ‘keep the balance’, or to maintain the illusion of equality between the sexes. Breaking this illusion, and denying subordination to it, is an act of political sedition worthy of verbal abuse, ostracism, and possible jail time.
These sexist double-binds are a product of sexism. In a world where gender equality was an objective fact, they wouldn’t exist. But the sexes are different, so society stresses that men refrain from doing these things to women. These rules are not active when men interact with other men, or women with women.
These restrictions on your manhood range everywhere from; (1) refraining from using physical force for any reason, and of any kind; (2) being really assertive; (3) hurting a woman’s feelings; (4) or merely disagreeing with a woman.
Despite the fact that men may behave this way towards one another on a regular basis with no one thinking twice, doing any of the above to females, for any reason at all, may be considered ‘misogynist’, or a criminal act of sexism. Punishments are administered by law (or in the workplace, or in social/family settings) in greater exaggeration on men if they ever actually treat women like actual men. Why? Because men are different than women, and men who don’t respect those differences are misogynists who need to be punished. Do you understand?
Men who restrain themselves from being too manly around a woman because women “can’t handle it” may be about as sexist as it gets. But it’s sexism that feminists benefit from, so they keep it around. Heaven forbid that curtain ever gets pulled down.
This produces the Orwellian doublethink[13] that we were warned about in the book 1984. Men’s minds reel when they recognize that our society assigns two contradictory statements the same level of truth. They say: “Men and women are equal,” along with “Men and women are not the same.” The double-binds that come out of this are nonsense and cause dissonance at several levels of our social life, culture, and politics; yet we let them perpetuate themselves, ignoring the contradictions to uphold a level of “civility” that other societies never had: “the equality of genders.”
When a woman (feminists in particular) is have had a conversation or heaven forbid an argument with a man, it is never a conversation between equals, because she does not view it as a level battlefield. Women have been taught their whole lives that men are domineering patriarchs who think little of women and that women have always been victims of male oppression. At the slightest suspicion, minute disagreement, or tone of voice, they will jump to the conclusion that they are being victimized at the hands of some invisible patriarchal superstructure, and you embody it. This dramatic overlay doesn’t only come in over politics or women’s issues; it could be over the most useless trivia or honestly nothing at all. Men who are subject to these tirades may have no inkling of malice for women in their hearts (at least before they were being yelled at for no reason). But this doesn’t matter, because it is less about what you actually think, and more about how the woman perceives you at the moment.
Many will say that assuming that women are emotional creatures is unfair to women and that such prejudices are a part of the problem. This is not true. Save the more recent years, I spent my whole life as a feminist and have waited, look for, and even assumed that women have the same thought process that men have. This was a mistake because it’s just not an actual thing. This is not “bad,” women are just different than men.
Women who appear to have developed rational faculties are still subject to all the hormones and mood swings that have been assigned to their biological sex. Like all other women, they are less inclined to out their sex in front of males, save when they are around men who they trust and are comfortable with. They are also hyper-aware of the emotional games women play with one another, and with men; they know very well that these same wiles and maneuvers are available to them if they need them. Women who say they think on the same ground as men do are doing a disservice to both men and women. They are intentionally confusing the nature of the two sexes for the sake of gaining some selfish foothold in a social situation or political argument. These women will inevitably contradict themselves by saying “treat us fairly, because we are just like you men,” and then later make a u-turn and claim “men shouldn’t speak about women’s issues because men don’t understand what it’s like to be a woman.” This is not a joke; it’s legitimate woman-logic. Women know it exists, and will even tell you it exists. But as long as they’ve kept men trained to ignore it at the right time for politeness sake, men will always be duped into being chumps.
Conveniently enough, women only requested to be seen as our equals at the peak of our modern society, when resources and comfort were at their highest, and adversity within the immediate environment was at its lowest. They did it at a time when women would not have to prove that they were like men the way men always have had to prove they were manly. Filing paperwork is how they proved they were “like men.” If they really wanted to prove they were men, they would have done what men have always done to prove who is the better man: Fighting in physical altercations.
If the feminist movement of the sixties actually thought they were males, all of them would have fought really hard for a spot in combat in the Vietnam war. But they didn’t protest to be drafted just like the men were. They were too busy burning bras, throwing feces at return draftees, and doing drugs in fields of flowers; along with a list of other things that men don’t do when they desire to receive honor and rank in society.
They were protesting for equality in a space of safety and security, in the very American bubble men built for them. With this, they built the myth of gender equality. A myth that only exists in first world countries that are extremely well off in technology and comfort.
A myth that only exists when Men stop acting like Real Men.
Male Disparities
Men have sacrificed and crippled themselves physically and emotionally to feed, house, and protect women and children. None of their pain or achievement is registered in feminist rhetoric, which portrays men as oppressive and callous exploiters. – Camille PagliaSociety has trained you to think that women are always victims and that men are always aggressors. Women are always helpless, and those manly men take the pain and refrain from complaining about hardship. Feminists speak this way even in the face of their own supposed androgynous standards of living. You speak this way because you know it is the truth. It could be said (and has been said by feminists and non-feminists alike) that women retain nothing without male approval. Where men “lose ground” in the political or social world to women, it is either because they have given it up themselves, or men with more accumulated power have given it up for them. There are no exceptions to this.
As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths. – Isaiah 3:12
Men were told their whole lives that they were to work tirelessly to better alleviate discomfort and misfortune for their wives and children. Men are engineered to recognize the plight of women and rectify it. Women spoke out about their issues, and men sought to solve them. Maybe it was about the weather, and the roof man built over their heads. The unbearable heat that brought the implementation of the AC unit in the home; their labors with clothes, which was followed by the laundry machine; or protecting them from others that would do them harm, whether within their own community or from other countries.
Men have always been ar the beck and call of women. Men fought very hard to create a world where their families could live in comfort and plenty. They created family structure and civilization for the benefit of all humanity. Now that men have created so much for women, organizations of women have sought to ‘opt out’ of the system men have created altogether, and ultimately eject men from the playing field.[14] This move has certainly not been without serious consequences.[15]
Now, it is common for women to hold fast to politics that conflict with now phantom standards of male expectations (while also often having the audacity to say that they wish they still existed). They also extort men with sex. Emotional manipulation and social engineering are also a serious factor men have to worry about with the modern female breed who is “free to do anything she pleases,” feminist mentality.
Modern Men have been sold out by their leaders and have become despondent and confused as to the personal roles they are supposed to fulfill in this world. Their desires and good intentions are always shadowed by the thousands of different pro-feminist, anti-male messages that are relayed to them at every level of society. After all this, women now ask: “Where have all the real men gone?” The answer is that they banned them, kicked them out of the house, and said that they are not wanted.
In reality, feminism is not a gender equality movement. Otherwise, why can’t both men and women benefit from equality programs? And why have feminists been completely silent over the issues men face? Some feminists will claim that there is room for discussion about male issues within feminism, but this is a red herring. Out of all the investment I have put into feminism and rolling through feminists channels and books, it’s plain to see that male issues are never discussed through self-proclaimed feminist portals. Ever. Feminists don’t care about men’s issues because they are under the mistaken assumption that men have it better than women in every category, and that the men are the cause of all their problems. The truth looks a lot different.[16][17]
There will never be a day when women, as a whole, will not be playing the victim to gain some sympathetic advantage in society. Feminists use female-sympathy to twist politics to their favor. If it ends up that feminists have no enemy; they will make them up[18]. People will often accept their assertions without question because of societal prejudice that states women are the weaker, more unfortunate sex. They will jump to remedy these false problems because they want to feel good about rescuing women from their condition. The fact is that women enjoy all sorts of positives in our society that, as an entity, they are completely ungrateful for. They get hired in stem fields 2 to 1 in comparison to men[19]. They make more money than men in some fields.[20][21] They are less likely to be diagnosed with learning disabilities then boys are in their youth.[22]
Women are not subject to the high suicide rates of males.[23] Men are more likely to develop substance abuse disorders than women.[24] Women are drastically less likely to suffer work-related injuries and fatalities than men.[25] They are imprisoned less[26] and less likely to be homeless than men.[27] They face shorter sentences for the same crime than men.[28] Men also get raped more,[29] assaulted more,[30] and murdered more often than women.[31][32]
There are many other issues men face disproportionately in comparison to women, but they’re not worthy of discussion to the public eye. These are all gender disparities that you can be sure you would hear about if they were on the shoulders of females. But because the victims are male, and men are the disposable units of society, all of the above facts are irrelevant. Feminist organizations don’t believe in equality, nor do they bother with the plight of men. In reality, they’re women’s organizations pretending to seek gender equality, when really they are only looking after gender benefits.
Feminists are crafty orators. They will continue to speak and be heard until circumstances within their immediate environment cause them to abandon their false principles. Regardless of how truthful or sincere they appear in their speeches, real honest-to-God equality is both nonviable and nonsensical for a functional society. It is also not reputable to science.[33] Feminism will ultimately spread moral decay because it is based on a lie.
The Nature of The Game
What a great advantage a man can have over women, if he only knew what cold and calculating thoughts are going through her mind…. while her eyes are brimming with tears.- Esther Vilar, The Manipulated ManIn witnessing girls cry, many times I have perceived that they were not sincere, and this was only a defense mechanism. And if they realized that this mechanism was not working, you could watch how their tears could dry up faster than a desert well, as if they felt nothing at all.
[A] woman who cries all the time [is] only [doing it] because she knows she can get away with it… Whatever else a woman is, I don’t care who the woman is, it starts with her being vain. – Malcolm X[34]
I don’t suppose that every time a girl cries that they are fake tears, but I certainly have experienced enough to be suspicious about whether or not I am being played for a fool when they turn on the waterworks. The same applies to women who might use beauty, flirtation, or skin to gain an advantage over others in social circles, or even at the workplace. Experience along with warnings from both men and women have taught me to be wary of this. If you are a man, being aware of these type of maneuvers women play can save you from both emotional scars and a lot of trouble.
Being feminine is a subtle feature women have that will aid them whenever they need to escape from actual danger, or to escape the consequences of their own actions. Men do not receive any benefit for crying or appearing weak and dainty. Not in the courtroom, not from their families, and certainly not from a crowd of strangers. The fact of the matter is that they will be looked on as less of a man if they do.
With men, everything they do is subject to the fact that another man or a group of men may start a fight with them over what they stand for. As I said before, men are expendable. This is why they have always fought all the wars and done all the dangerous jobs. Neither men nor women expect women to endure situations of physical/emotional duress, particularly at the hands of the forces of nature, or from other males. In a situation of crisis or imminent danger, it is biologically and sociologically implicit to all the members of our society that men take the reigns and put their lives on the line to preserve the well-being of the women. This is for the same reason men are taught to refrain from physically harming women: they are stronger and more physically capable than women.
Flowery indecision is fundamental and inherent to a woman’s character. Women will acknowledge the nature of their psyche or biology when personal temperament deems appropriate, or when certain exertions upon them force them to recognize what they are. They will otherwise shroud themselves with ambiguity, be thrown to and fro, speak regarding relativity, and (when fashion or culture allows) they may even misdirect others by hinting that they view themselves, to some degree, as androgynous and epicene.
Women with feminist leanings may get irate when you openly point out their feminine characteristics in front of them, regardless of whether or not it was a compliment. They certainly get more irate than men do when women tell them that they are “mansplaining,”[35] or some other hypocritically sexist feminist garbage. However, when it’s to their advantage women participate in the same stereotypes that have caricatured womenfolk since the beginning of time. This includes roles that personify the victimhood of women, the physical and emotional weakness of women, and activating age old concepts of chivalry that say a man should step in the way of her accusers and save them from their predicaments. They do this to sidestep environmental dangers; and also so they can avoid the psychological, sociological, and physical repercussions society distributes to others for irreverent or immoral behavior. These are both dangers and repercussions men receive without restraint.
Women across the board invoke phrases that catch the ear of men. They will infer that women should be rescued from danger and that men should stand in to soften their suffering. Suffering they should not endure simply because they are women. They may even imply that they are victims of circumstance, even if they have caused their own trouble.
Men get confused when women claim they want more responsibility, but regularly weasel and whine their way out of situations because they are uncomfortable. By how much this happens, it may very well be a truth that women need to be ‘saved from their circumstance,’ or that men must stand in opposition to their fickle, irrational behavior. Because that is just who they are.
However, the annoying part comes with newer generations of women who play all the above games after so assuredly claiming that they are “equal” to men. That we are supposed to be “on the same playing field.” Or even after saying that they “don’t need a man.” Any woman making the claim that the above feminine wiles don’t exist or that there is no advantage to them is both a liar and a false witness.
Something must give because it will not go both ways. You will either see women want to act more womanly or see them cease to respect themselves. Or if you believe that males are always the actors and aggressors, it is the men who will force women to behave either way. The choice is yours.
Instead of women beating men at their own game, they plead for help from us and the structures we invented. They do this while simultaneously asserting that they are as good as or better than us at everything. They want the same socio-economic and political mobility that men have, without having made an equal sacrifice regarding rough labor and mandatory warfare (among many other things) that men have always made throughout time.
Both men and women are very aware of these tactics women play, and men enable this behavior. It is already known that men and women are not the same, but certain ‘danger meters’ have been programmed to go off in our head when anyone explicitly acknowledges simple facts in the open. Pretending to believe in contradictions and falsehoods can only make people’s lives worse for them. I am arguing that on the basis of biology, and how quick women are to throw equality out the window for sheer convenience, that we stop pretending that the sexes are equivalent in nature, because they are not.
Being ‘Sexist’ in a Feminist World
Taking a stand means taking heat. Saying “no” will have consequences. No one likes to be excluded, and when you move to exclude someone, they will lash out emotionally… Men need spaces where they can speak freely and frankly- where they are not expected to edit their commentary to pander to the interests and agendas of women… Refusing to give women whatever they ask for is not hate.“– Jack Donovan, Drawing the Line[36]Because we live in an age of plenty, large portions of society don’t require men to be masculine anymore. As society has become more based on information, hard labor jobs are often the only place where required strength and physical risk are constant; which, outside of loyal paternal fatherhood, is the environment were real masculinity shines. It is important now more than ever that we not forget what masculinity has paid for, because if we forget, we may rely on other organizational structures that will undo all that we have built.
Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one. – Marcus Aurelius
All the infrastructure, technological developments, progress in politics or the arts, have been the result of the toil of men over the course of several thousand years. We are the men that got the job done, fought the wars to protect our families, designed and built all the wonders of the world, got scurvy circumnavigating the globe, got black lung in the coal mines, and a whole host of atrocities that we toughed through to get where we are today. We are descended from men who survived the hell fire of the world, and the brothers of those who died to protect our families and our lifestyles.
This is not to say that women have not had it hard or played an important role in society- but where men could, they toiled, suffered and died so their women and children would not have to endure similar circumstances. I’m sure that all these important men had mothers who raised them right or sisters and wives that had nurturing, communal roles in society to help keep things together. Unfortunately, feminism has fought to make motherhood and other such roles undesirable, and told women that instead they should be focused on careers that make them ‘more like men.’ This is not a good trend for women to follow[37], and may very well result in the decay of the family and the destruction of our society.
Just because we have it easy now (and we have it really easy) does not mean that we should not raise the bar or just let go of our masculinity. Rest assured; another time will come when being a man will be more important than doing all the nice, leisurely things this feminized society offers for nothing at all. It is better for you, and will be more fulfilling to your manhood to prepare for that time, rather than wasting your life away in a world of plastic, digital illusions. As men, we should consider whether or not the comforts we have, or the habits we partake of, are excessive, needless, or degrading to our characters. If they are, we need to get rid of them and find better uses for our time. Misdirected energy is probably the number one deterrent to manliness in this society.
Saying you are sexist out loud means admitting to yourself that the game is and will always be rigged by biology and societal prejudice. It means that your no longer willing to participate in double binds and treat people as some exception to the rule because of their gender. This is “not fair”, but life is not fair. The nameless hordes of men who gave their lives and died for our freedoms only to remembered as “oppressive, privileged patriarchs” knew this better than anyone. You don’t have to like sexism. You don’t have to like gendered double-standards. You don’t have to like the time you live in. You don’t have to like any of that. But you do have to be aware of their reality. Being willfully ignorant will grant you a fools reward. If you want to be a benefit to both your friends and family, and best contribute to society, you will align yourself with truth and facts of reality and do your best to live the most correct way you can, even in the face of all the opposition that is out there- this is truly what it means to be a man.
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[1] Sociology, by John J. Macionis, 14th addition, pg 313 (pdf pg 345). emphasis mine[2] “Women Are Sexist Too,” Anne-Marie Slaughter, Time Magazine, September 2015:
“…I’m not talking about differences here. I’m talking about presumed superiority: the ways in which a majority of American women actually think we are better than men in the entire domestic realm, from kids to kitchens. About the things we don’t actually want to give up. And about the roles many of us want men to play and the roles we are willing to let them play.
Consider the following scenario. You walk into your office on your first day of work and your boss, a man, says, “I have evolved biologically to do this job better than you can, but I’m going to let you try. To be sure it’s done right, however, I will leave you detailed instructions for every individual task. And when I travel, I will call in every couple of hours to make sure you are following those instructions to the letter.”
Most women would complain immediately to human resources and perhaps start considering a lawsuit. But when I describe this hypothetical scene to audiences of women, the laughter begins to ripple along the rows by the time I get to “I will leave you detailed instructions.” This is precisely the way the majority of us treat our husbands or male partners when we leave them in charge of the children. When I point out our own double standards in this regard, double standards we have long ago fiercely rejected in the workplace, I see a number of women looking slightly shamefaced. But inevitably at least one woman in the audience will raise her hand and say what many others are thinking: “But they really don’t know how to do it.”
[3] “’Equal rights’ for women: wrong then, wrong now,” Phyllis Schlafly, LA Times, April 8th, 2007
[4] “Women at Work: Values”, PBS; “In 1936, a Gallup poll asked a national sample, “Should a married woman earn money if she has a husband capable of supporting her?” By overwhelming majorities, both men and women said she should not.”
[5] “Not Guilty: The Case in Defense of Men,” David Thomas, August 1993, pg 85;
“The desire to free oneself from work was common to all classes and both sexes. Dr Joanna Bourke of Birkbeck College, London, has studied the diaries of 5,000 women who lived between 1860 and 1930. During that period, the proportion of women in paid employment dropped from 75 per cent to 10 per cent. This was regarded as a huge step forward for womankind, an opinion shared by the women whose writings Dr Bourke researched. Freed from mills and factories, they created a new power base for themselves at home. This was, claims Dr Bourke, “a deliberate choice. . . and a choice that gave great pleasure.” (emphasis mine)
[6] Queen Victoria, the most powerful women of her time, was quoted in 1870 saying: “We women are not made for governing, and if we are good women, we must dislike these masculine occupations. There are times which force one to take interest in them, and I do, of course intensely… I am most anxious to enlist everyone who can speak or write to join in checking this mad, wicked folly of ‘Women’s Rights’, with all its attendant horrors, on which her poor feeble sex is bent, forgetting every sense of womanly feelings and propriety. Feminists ought to get a good whipping. Were woman to ‘unsex’ themselves by claiming equality with men, they would become the most hateful, heathen and disgusting of beings, and would surely perish without male protection.”
[7] “What’s Wrong with ‘Equal Rights’ for Women?” Phyllis Schlafly, 1972
[8] “The Grand Fraud part II,” Thomas Sowell, Town Hall, April 2n2, 2003;
“…Women had achieved a higher representation in higher education and in many professions in earlier decades of the twentieth century than they had when the feminist movement became prominent in the 1960s…The percentage of master’s degrees and doctoral degrees that went to women was never as great during any year of the 1950s or 1960s as that percentage was back in 1930. The percentage of women who were listed in “Who’s Who in America” was twice as high in 1902 as in 1958. Women were also better represented in higher education and in a number of professions in the 1920s or 1930s than they were in the 1950s or 1960s, though none of this fits the fashionable fairy tales of the feminists. Women received 34 percent of the bachelor’s degrees in 1920 but only 24 percent in 1950. In mathematics, women’s share of doctorates declined from 15 percent to 5 percent over a span of decades, and in economics from 10 percent to 2 percent… How do the feminists explain away this earlier history of women’s progress? They don’t. They ignore it. By the simple expedient of tracing women’s progress only since the 1960s, the fraud is protected from contact with inconvenient facts.” (emphasis mine)
[9] “The Biology of Attraction,” Helen E. Fisher, Psychology Today, April 1993 (updated June 2016)
[10] “How Male and Female Brains Differ,” Webmd.
[11] Carol Giligan, Goucher College, 1988. From the abstract: “Gilligan’s work… [introduces] a feminist perspective of moral development… Men tend to organize social relationships in a hierarchical order and subscribe to a morality of rights. Females value interpersonal connectedness, care, sensitivity, and responsibility to people.”
[12] In 2015 Nobel prize winning scientist Tim Hunt made the comment to an audience in South Korea: “Let me tell you about my trouble with girls. Three things happen when they are in the lab: you fall in love with them, they fall in love with you, and when you criticize them they cry.” On June 10, 2015, Dr. Emily Grossman appeared on the British based Sky News to give commentary on the matter. Rather than criticize Tim Hunt for inferring that women can’t handle male criticism, she insisted that his comments were “irresponsible… women learn in a very different way [than men]… Women learn in a way that is supportive, thats nurturing… I see the girls that I teach get put into mixed sex groups and get put off because they are in a competitive environment, they’re too frightened…” Throughout the interview, she continued to infer that men should refrain from being competitive or being critical in order to help “nurture” girls along in their progress.
[13] According to Dictionary.com. Doublethink is “the acceptance of two contradictory ideas or beliefs at the same time.” In addition, the wikipedia entry on Doublethink, as of June, 14, 09:50 EST reads; “George Orwell created the word double think in his dystopian novel Nineteen Eighty-Four;… the novel explicitly shows people learning Doublethink… due to peer pressure and a desire to “fit in”, or gain status with the Party – to be seen as a loyal Party Member. In the novel, for someone to even recognize – let alone mention – any contradiction within the context of the Party line was akin to blasphemy, and could subject that someone to possible disciplinary action and to the instant social disapproval of fellow Party Members.”
[14] “The End of Men,” Hanna Rosin, The Atlantic, July 2010
[15] “No Man’s Land,” Jack Donovan, November 11th, 2011
[16] “The Female Paradox: Women Prefer to Work With Men,” Terina Allen, CEO ARVi’s Institute, Jan 10th, 2015
[17] “Sisterhood? Women cooperate less with their own sex than men,” Sarah Knapton, The Telegraph, March 4th, 2014
[18] “The Top Five Feminist Myths of All Time, ” Christina Hoff Sommers ,AEI, september 8th, 2014.
Through her series “The Factual Feminist,” sommers released a video commentary going over and debunking several of the myths and folklore surrounding the over exaggerated plight of women, noting that feminists use to these myths to propagate their own agenda. The following myths that were debunked were:
- Women are half the world’s population, working two-thirds of the world’s working hours, receiving 10% of the worlds income, owning less than %1 of the worlds property.
- Between 100,000 and 300,000 girls are sold into slavery each year in the United States. 3. In the United States, 22-35% of women who visit hospital emergency rooms do so because of domestic violence.
- One in five college women will be sexually assaulted.
- Women earn 77 cents for every dollar a man earns for doing the same work.
[20] “There are 22 US Cities Where Women Actually Earn More Than Men,” Emily Cohn, Huffington Post, April 7th, 2015
[21] “No, Women Don’t Make Less Money Than Men,” Christina Hoff Sommers, The Daily Beast, February 1st, 2014
[22] “What Challenges Are Boys Facing, And What Opportunities Exist to Address those Challenges?,” U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, ASPE, May 8th, 2008
[23] Firstfamilyaid.org; “More men than woman die by suicide. The gender ration is 4:1. 73% of all deaths are white males. 80% of all firearm suicide deaths are white males. ” The Gender ratio for adolescent suicide , age 10-14, is 3:1 (males:females). The gender ratio for teen suicides, aged 15-19, is 5:1 (males:females).
[24] “In Mental Illness Men More Likely To Develop Substance Abuse, Antisocial Problems; Women More LIkely To Develop Anxiety, Depression,” Medical News Today, August 22nd, 2011.
[25] According to 2013 Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS), men make up for 93% (4,265) of fatal work related injuries, and Women 7%(319).
[26] “Federal Bureau of Prisons Statistics on Inmate Gender”; 93.3% male, 6.7% female (as of April 23rd, 2016)
[27] “The other gender divide: where men are loosing out” Mona Chalabi, The Gaurdian, May 7th, 2013; “[T]he housing charity Crisis found that 84% of the hidden homeless were male. And the latest CHAIN figures suggest that 9 out of 10 people sleeping rough are male. According to Mankind Initiative in UK refugees or safe houses, there are 33 spaces dedicated to male victims of domestic violence (of which 18 are for gay males only), compared to around 4,000 spaces for females.”
[28] “Estimating Gender Disparities in Federal Criminal Cases” Sonja B. Starr, University of Michigan Law School, August 29, 2012.
[29] “More men are raped in the US than women, figures on prison assaults reveal,” Daily Mail, October 8th 2013.
[30] “Criminal Victimization, 2013” U.S. Department of Justice, September 2014
[31] “Homicide Statistics 2013”, United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime (UNDOC)
[32] “Homicide Trends in the United States, 1980-2008”, November 2011, Table 1; 76.8% victims male, 23.2% female.
[33] Aside from the explicit biological, psychological, and neurological differences between men and women, there are also diseases that are “sexist”, and that are significantly more likely to afflict you based on whether or not you are a male or a female.
[34] “The Autobiography of Malcolm X,” as told by Alex Haley, First Ballantine Books Trade Edition: February 1992, pg 448 (emphasis mine)
[35] As defined by dictionary.com: “(of a man) to comment on or explain something to a woman in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate or oversimplified manner: He mansplained to her about female friendships.”
[36] Emphasis mine.
[37] “Is There a Happiness Gender Gap?”Jill Suttie, Berkley.edu, December 1st 2009;
“women’s happiness levels have been dropping steadily over the last few decades, to the point that women now report lower happiness levels than men, a role reversal from the 1970s. Given social improvements in women’s lives over the intervening decades—increased work opportunities, higher salaries, and more reproductive choice, to name a few- these results have surprised for than a few commentators… several large-scale surveys that have tracked the general well-being of Americans and Europeans from as far back as 1972. They found that women’s happiness levels had dropped over time in each survey.”
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