By : Pornography is a hot-button issue of the day, and every season, more states add themselves to the list of legislatures that have declared pornography, and Internet pornography, to be a public health crisis. Often, these legislative efforts identify pornography as having blanket negative effects on people, and especially on couples. Historically, many have claimed that porn use causes divorce and marital difficulties on the basis of pretty sloppy data and research. Recent research is finding that the effects of porn on marriage vary greatly, depending upon some characteristics of the marriage and the porn use. Nonreligious couples who watch porn together seem to be quite well insulated from experiencing any negative effects from porn use.
But, isn’t watching porn the equivalent of cheating—getting sex outside the marriage? Dr. Phil has suggested (link is external)that watching porn is “not OK” and likely opens the door to cheating. Antiporn group Fight the New Drug proclaims (link is external)that watching porn is cheating, because it feels like it, and because of oxytocin. (They suggest that watching porn releases oxytocin in the brain, which causes you to “bond” with the porn, rather than your real life partner). And the explicitly religious organization Covenant Eyes declares (link is external)that using porn is cheating, because it is “engagement with a digital prostitute despite one’s vow to forsake all others.”
But, isn’t watching porn the equivalent of cheating—getting sex outside the marriage? Dr. Phil has suggested (link is external)that watching porn is “not OK” and likely opens the door to cheating. Antiporn group Fight the New Drug proclaims (link is external)that watching porn is cheating, because it feels like it, and because of oxytocin. (They suggest that watching porn releases oxytocin in the brain, which causes you to “bond” with the porn, rather than your real life partner). And the explicitly religious organization Covenant Eyes declares (link is external)that using porn is cheating, because it is “engagement with a digital prostitute despite one’s vow to forsake all others.”