The recipe advertised this month is Jane’s Fish Cakes ‘For Two, Or One’ and, on the face, the recipe seems fairly okay. What has angered many, however, is the so-called love story.
“Revenge is a dish best served in the form of fishcakes. That’s what Jane thinks when she falls out with her boyfriend. These fishcakes are his favourite so she’s making them for dinner… but only for herself.
If he apologises to her while she’s cooking, though, maybe she’ll turn them into a make-up dinner for two. Maybe…”
Despite her stating in the advert he apologised for his forgetfulness, it would appear his apology is not enough and more punishment is required. Another apology is wanted it seems but, as Jane said in the advert “he’s probably suffered enough [implying previous punishment] … no, he hasn’t!” This is not just about the supposed transgression, this is about causing suffering to her partner.
To withhold food on grounds a spouse has ‘misbehaved’ or, as a form of revenge is, by very definition, coercive and controlling behaviour. To quote the 2015 Coercive and Controlling Behaviour Act:
Coercive behaviour is: a continuing act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.
Such behaviours might include:
- depriving them of their basic needs;
- repeatedly putting them down such as telling them they are worthless;
- enforcing rules and activity which humiliate, degrade or dehumanise the victim;
And, the Domestic Violence and Abuse guidance website states:
The cross-government definition of domestic violence and abuse is:
any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to:
- psychological
- physical
- sexual
- financial
- emotional
It’s been some tough weeks for Tesco. The pay gap investigation, the so-called sexist trolleys and now, glorifying domestic abuse. Their PR team must be close to breaking point!
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