By Tom Golden: When men enter into couples therapy with their wives or significant female others they will often come into what seems like foreign territory. Things don’t make sense and the language used is not so familiar. It seems like they are “out of place.” The first section of this article intends to offer men a primer on the basics of why they may feel out of place. The later section will focus on ideas about what they can do about it and tips for getting the most they can from the experience. It is worth noting that for biological reasons there are probably about 1 in 5 men who will feel more comfortable in the couples therapy setting. It is also true that 1 in 5 women will be more like most men. When this article addresses “men” it is directed towards that 80% of men and 20% of women. Bottom line? We are all very different and if you are a man or a woman and want to know more about the nature of couples therapy you may find this article useful. (For more information on these differences see my book The Way Men Heal at Amazon) Men and Couples Therapy – Why is this hard for men? The whole idea of sitting face to face and talking about emotions and hurt seems odd to many men.
StudioBrule: The Liberty Belles are four female cultural critics from London, England: Catherine Kitsis, Paula Wright, Elizabeth Butler, Natoya Raymond. They offer their unique take on this bizarre cultural moment in which our hard-won liberties are under attack from within.
PragerU: What are the five biggest problems facing black Americans? Where do things like racism and police brutality rank? What about the absence of black fathers? Taleeb Starkes, author of Amazon #1 bestseller "Black Lies Matter," lists the five. They may surprise you.
ABC Hack Live - What a crap show! Cassie Jaye made the right move staying away from this stacked show with all the experts in the audience pushing a feminist perspective. Just look at the job they did on Karen Straughan, editing down her two-hour plus interview to a few provocative statements. The ABC showed their true colours and Cassie was well off out of it – Bettina Arndt.
circmovie: American Circumcision is a feature-length documentary on circumcision in America, and the growing Intactivist movement that says all human beings should have the right to make their own choices about their bodies.
By Peter Wright: Men who speak out about personal issues, and those advocating men’s issues are sometimes charged with being ‘angry men.’ The accusation is designed to reduce a man’s story to a single emotion; no longer a man telling his story with a tone of anger, but a storyless freak whose entire manhood is synonymous with anger – angry man – no more and no less than a single taboo emotion. By labeling him an angry man, a complex human being is reduced to a one-dimensional caricature that dehumanizes him, discredits his claims to a wider audience, and ultimately aims to censor his evidence of pain or unfair treatment. The implication is that angry men are irrational and should be listened only after they have calmed down and domesticated the raw emotionalism. However calming down would be better termed as pushing down, because that’s what happens to a man’s concerns and sense of passion in the face of the angry man charge. Calming down leads that initial anger, which longs to effect positive changes to the world, to look for another outlet. Sometimes it intensifies into destructive or violent acting out, or worse, is converted into a neurotic self-censorship through the aid of drugs, depression and not infrequently suicide. If censorship is the desired aim of the angry man taunt, then suicide is delivering it in spades.
Freedom Alternative: I talk with Jan Sjunnesson, Swedish journalist and author who has gotten in trouble for expressing a different opinion about immigration policy than the received wisdom from the almighty Swedish State.
It is worth noting that for biological reasons there are probably about 1 in 5 men who will feel more comfortable in the couples therapy setting. It is also true that 1 in 5 women will be more like most men. When this article addresses “men” it is directed towards that 80% of men and 20% of women. Bottom line? We are all very different and if you are a man or a woman and want to know more about the nature of couples therapy you may find this article useful. (For more information on these differences see my book The Way Men Heal at Amazon)
It is worth noting that for biological reasons there are probably about 1 in 5 men who will feel more comfortable in the couples therapy setting. It is also true that 1 in 5 women will be more like most men. When this article addresses “men” it is directed towards that 80% of men and 20% of women. Bottom line? We are all very different and if you are a man or a woman and want to know more about the nature of couples therapy you may find this article useful. (For more information on these differences see my book The Way Men Heal at Amazon)
