Transwomen Say Men Won’t Date Them… Good

'Transphobe is a word best reserved for those who actively seek to harm trans people, not for those of us who simply aren't interested in shagging them.'

The Poor Mans Podcast Reacts

Angelos Agathangelou: I feel duty bound as a Greek to point out to those who aren't aware that 'phobia', as in 'trans-phobe', is the Greek word for fear. I mention this because, just because heterosexual men don't want to be with men who identify as a woman, doesn't automatically mean that they are 'afraid' of trans people. I suggest that more often than not they are simply uninterested and the same goes for homosexual men. Most heterosexual men don't have a phobia, or fear of either of those groups, they're just not interested in shagging any of them. To label that 'fear' must be an incorrect use of the word.

I suggest that their stating that people who don't want to shag them are phobic is actually a form of projection on their part. Perhaps fear was their emotional state when they were going through the process of figuring out their own sexuality in a majority heterosexual world.

Philos is the Greek word for friend, as in technophile meaning friend, or lover of technology, so as a heterosexual man I feel no further epithet is required, but if they must, more aptly named a gyno-phil[os/e] friend of, or lover of women.

If English speakers are going to use Greek words in order to attempt to sound superior, they should at least attempt to use Greek words correctly. 

Further evidence of this matter of projection is that I'm sure I'm not the only one who's aware that many homosexual men like to presume that we heterosexual men just haven't come out of the closet yet. Wishful thinking on their part, or projection, that I'm sure most of us find flattering and amusing.

I suggest that the same is true here for some trans people. For trans people to attempt to accuse us of being afraid of them, just because we don't find them attractive is clearly their own boggle, not ours, generally speaking.

In conclusion, transphobe is a word best reserved for those who actively seek to harm trans people, not for those of us who simply aren't interested in shagging them and is otherwise an incorrect use of the Greek, when most of us are best simply described as 'heterosexual'.